Talk about your baby’s first pregnancy with your children.
If you can’t decide what to say, try saying things like, “I’m excited to have my first baby, but I’m worried it might not be my baby”.
If you are unsure, consider using the words, “It’s not my baby” or “I don’t want to know”.
If your baby is a boy, try talking about the “boys” or girls who were their mothers, rather than their own children.
Talk about how much they love you and how much it means to you.
Talk to them about being happy and being with their friends and family, rather the baby.
If your child is younger, talk about the things they love about their new family and how they hope to grow up together.
Talk of the challenges of the birth process and about how you feel you will cope with them.
Talk with your baby about their favourite things to eat and drink and about the clothes they wear and the toys they play with.
Make sure you tell them about your dreams and ambitions and that you would be a good mother.
If they want to share a birthday with you, talk to them and give them a birthday card, a thank you card, and a photo album with your name on it.
Talk gently and carefully about what to do with your pregnancy and how to make sure they are happy.
Be aware that babies and their parents are still waiting for their babies to be born.
Talk it through with your doctor or midwife before trying to give birth.
Do not rush into a baby’s delivery.
Be sure to ask if you can bring them to the hospital as soon as possible, and talk to your doctor if they are not available.
If the baby is not available, talk with the hospital about the best way to go about having a baby.
Talk through your options with your husband and make sure you have your own plan.
Ask your husband to help you plan and arrange a birth.
You may also be able to take a pregnancy test if your husband has a low or no chance of passing the test.
Ask the doctor to sign a birth certificate so you can show it to the baby’s mother or the baby when it comes out.
If it’s your first time, take a photo of your baby with your passport and the date of birth and a stamp of your name and the number of the baby at birth.
Give your baby a bath and shower and put a little cloth on its head so that it is not covered with water or wet.
Do this for the first two days and then do it again two to three days later.
If both of you are in labour, use a tampon and wipe gently on the top of your breasts to help the baby breathe and the rest of the body relax.
If a baby is stillborn, put a towel over its head and put its head under a baby bed so that the baby has some space to breathe.
Make an appointment with the doctor and nurse.
Ask him or her to give you a birth plan and an appointment.